- Relationship concerns
- Sexual wellbeing
- Anxiety and stress
About Siyi
Siyi Lai is a New York LMFT - licensed marriage and family therapist with four years of clinical experience. She works with stress, anxiety, relationship and intimacy-related issues, self-esteem concerns, and people coping with life changes. Sessions are offered in English, Mandarin, and Cantonese.
Siyi draws on her professional background and personal experience with relationship transitions to help people talk through sexual wellbeing and connection. She meets individuals who want clearer communication, less shame around intimacy, or a clearer sense of what they want from partnerships. Conversations are direct and practical, focusing on specific steps a person can take between sessions.
Her work addresses attachment and abandonment concerns, avoidant personality patterns, and the effects of family of origin and blended family dynamics. She also supports people navigating gender dysphoria, body image, guilt and shame, and relationship changes such as divorce and separation. Issues around BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture are included in her focus areas.
Siyi helps people strengthen communication skills and manage control issues that interfere with closeness. She uses evidence-based techniques to reduce anxiety and increase confidence in social and intimate situations. The goal is clearer choices and more effective steps toward the relationship someone wants.
Clients who choose to work with her begin by completing a short matching questionnaire and scheduling a first session. Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
Approaches used online and what to expect
Siyi works with evidence-based therapeutic techniques that focus on relationships and anxiety. One common approach she uses helps people notice and change patterns of interaction - it looks at how attachment and past relationships shape current responses, and it can be useful for abandonment, communication, and intimacy issues. Another approach centers on short practical skills for managing anxiety and stress, teaching breathing, grounding, and brief behavioral experiments to test out new ways of responding in social situations.Choosing the right approach happens together. The therapist reviews your goals, preferences, and what has or has not helped before, then recommends techniques to try. Sessions are collaborative and can shift as needs change so the plan stays relevant to what is actually happening in daily life.
Session formats are not specified in the biography, so confirm current online options before booking. Many people find that remote sessions fit into work and family routines more easily, allow for shorter check-ins when needed, or reduce travel time. Online meetings can also make it simpler to practice skills between sessions and to bring up real-life moments that came up during the week.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Experience
4+ years
Listed in
New York
Languages
English, Mandarin, Cantonese
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she address?
She works with stress, anxiety, relationship and intimacy-related issues, self-esteem problems, and coping with life changes.
What is her therapeutic style?
She uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques and focuses on practical communication skills and steps clients can try between sessions.
How long has she been practicing?
She has four years of clinical experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
Where is she licensed and located?
She is a New York LMFT and practices in New York.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English, Mandarin, and Cantonese.
Can I work with her from another country?
She does not accept international clients at this time.
How are sessions paid for?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I start a first session?
Click the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.