- CBT methods
- Attachment focus
- Emotion work
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a New York State licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) with 25 years of experience. She works with adults on stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, depression, relationship concerns, grief, parenting strain, anger, career questions, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue.
She describes her role as similar to a coach who helps people notice the strengths they already have. She helps clients develop new skills to answer questions and resolve dilemmas. Sessions are scheduled regularly, often weekly or biweekly, to build steady progress.
Her practice draws on several therapeutic approaches and she chooses methods that fit each person. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is part of her work, along with attachment-based ideas and emotionally-focused methods. She also uses dialectical behavior therapy skills when they suit the work.
Mailman emphasizes building a trusting relationship first. She considers cultural background, ethnicity, and sexual orientation in how she frames conversations and goals. That means she pays attention to how cultural norms affect a person’s concerns and coping styles.
She has worked with a wide range of adult clients since 2001 and brings long experience in individual psychotherapy. Sessions aim to be practical: clients talk through specific problems, try skills in session, and plan steps to use outside of therapy. She asks clients to give notice if they need to reschedule, respecting regular appointment times.
How her approaches translate to online work
Toby frequently uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Emotionally-Focused Therapy in her work. CBT focuses on spotting unhelpful thoughts and testing new behaviors to reduce anxious or depressed reactions, which can be useful for social anxiety, stress, and mood concerns. Emotionally-Focused Therapy looks at feelings under the surface and helps people name emotions so they can respond differently in relationships and in stressful moments.Choosing an approach is collaborative. She will talk with the client about goals and preferences and then suggest methods to try. Over a few sessions she and the client decide which tools and ways of working feel most helpful and adjust the plan as needed.
The practical benefits of online sessions include fitting appointments into a busy week and avoiding travel time. Because session formats were not specified in the biography, confirm the current online session options before booking. Online work can make it easier to practice skills between sessions and to check in without taking a long break from daily routines.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
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Additional focus areas
Therapeutic approaches
Experience
25+ years
Listed in
New York
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does she address?
She works with adults on stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, depression, grief, parenting strain, anger, career matters, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue.
What is her therapy style like?
She describes her role as a coach who helps people notice strengths and build skills. Sessions focus on practical steps and developing new ways to handle problems.
How much experience does she have?
She has been in practice with individual adults since 2001, giving her about 25 years of clinical experience.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is a New York State licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) and practices in New York.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Do you accept international clients?
She does not accept international clients at this time.
How are sessions scheduled and what about cost?
Sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time, and cost varies with location.
How do I begin working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.